getting married after 50

Recently I have had this chat with a number of men friends and just today with a female friend from high school. We are getting ready for a high school reunion and I have not seen this girl for almost 30 years-- we ended up at different high schools but I am still invited to this one.
At any rate, this lady has never been married, has no kids and like me thinks that getting married after 50 is the dream.
I, like some of my male friends, tend to agree. For some, like me, having kids, raising them and dealing with life just does not blend well with a later marriage. So, for me, I have been thinking that after 50 would be a terrific time to get married. Kid(s) are grown and hopefully gone for ever, life is stable and you have a better idea of the kind of relationship and partner you want. You know how much time you want to give, and want free, you understand the need for folks to still live their own life, perhaps time to slow down, enjoy a great banter of the minds without taking it personally ( a great intellectual debate is wonderful!) you will both know if you want to travel and where, live fancy, off grid or a combination of both, you should have enough understand and compassion to make a great companion--- yup!
I think marriage after 50 sounds like a fine idea.
Now, I need to firm up my wish list and wait a few years!

Globe and mail is a waste of time

OK- Can someone help out here?
Since they let the old publisher go the globe and mail has been taken over by young fools!
Tacky U-tube wedding entrances are on the front page- lifestyle is all about babies, babies more babies-- and how wonderful it is they are first humans to breed!
Is there another news page that has any real credit left?
I do not care where in the world (as long as it is in English) PLEASE help me find a newspaper worth reading--- s ome new blogs-- something!
thanks!

Okay-

If Michael Jackson can die at 50--- (still having such a problem he actually was 50- which means we are old) and Princess Diana can get killed in a car accident with a drunk driver-- anything can happen to us poor mere mortals.

Time to get off the pot- the pity pot- the money pot- the lazy pot- whichever pot you are sitting on and get some of the things you want from life done!

My List of the 50 things to do before I die---not necessarily in order

1) Romantic weekend in Quebec City (yes- this actually involves a man- so perhaps find a man for Quebec City should be before this )
2) Write a novel
3) San Francisco long weekend ( yup-never been want to eat- shop )
4) One week in New York- ( I am sure multiple trips should be in order- but I will start with one)
5) Cuba with my son ( his love of baseball will lead him to the small towns and my love of jazz and 'coolness' will let us stay some time in Havana--
6) Learn French
7) Buy something from a Paris flea market in French
8) Learn Spanish
9) Live in Mexico
10) Paint pictures
11) Fall in love - (again- or for the first time? not sure on this- know I have never been in love with a man that loves me- at the same time---hmmmmmm)
12) Write another novel
13) Stay (get) in shape
14) Be kind, laugh and love everyday
15) Garden more and better
16) Cooking school in the south of France
17) Cooking school in Italy
18) Hike around Nepal
19) One month tour of India ( ah the food, the fabric, the jewels, the architecture)
20)Safari
21) Love freely (no this is not a reference to cheap sex)
22)Be happy
23) Luxury car- Benz, Lexus, Beemer
24) Gold Rolex (long story from my childhood on this one)
25) Artist proof of Chanel #5 by Warhol
26) Lichtenstein art
27) LV makeup case
28) Black Chanel Chain bag
29) any Hermes bag- used, re-used, new -freshly ordered
30) Thailand
31) China
32) Live in at least one house that is finally decorated!
33) an extra in a movie
34) Live in my retrofitted train containers and be a hobo.
35).........................

end of cool comments and articles on the globe and mail

Guys and ladies- now that the Globe has changed direction-- and everything in life section is about having babies- and us oldies have been kicked out we need a new place to rant and rave!
Well, here it is. Please send me via comments your ideas on blog articles. I know you are out there cause we have had some good chats on the globe and here!
So, I know of a few.
1)I have a male friend going through a divorce where he has been accused of the 'bad thing'... how can a woman do this without proof?

2) If you know of a wife or husband that has spent years not being an active spouse, parent at what time is a divorce 'called for'?

3) What is that men/women really want in a partner?

4) Why when I hit 50 do I think that that is when I might be ready to 'surrender' and think seriously of sharing my 'space' with a man?

5) What do men go through at mid-life?

6) What do women go through at mid-life?

7) What do we want the rest of our lives to hold?

Men and women as friends- part 3,0012,000

Okay- this seems to be an issue
I have had men friends my entire life- I enjoy their company more than most women. Men tend to talk about events, politics, theories- not people and feelings to ad naseum.
Not that I don't enjoy a good chat about shoes and perfume sometimes.
I was so shocked when I was 13 and my male friends started getting weird on me- and asking me out! What?!
Since then, I have to admit many of my male friends have told me they actually wanted more than friends- but are happy with being a friend than not having me in their lives at all....
Also, my best friend likes to joke he is so happy that I did not find 'that special spark' with him.
He would of missed out on the true love of his life- a terrific girl who adores him. In addition he says "You would of been my second ex-wife."
You see I am not good wife or girlfriend material- I am kinda like the male bad boy. The one that is out fishing for a trophy- and ends up sport fishing instead - finding the throw back ones.
In reference to my behaviour- it should be noted that I became a 'housewife' at just 17---and have spent years in that role- granted with 3 different men. At this point in my life- should 'my trophy love' come around I want to be free to 'fall crazy in love with him.' My list of requirements for this are simply far too long for any true mortal male to fulfill. So single I am---and free to come and go and do as I please!
My male friends are also kind enough to indulge me in my delusion that I don't need a man!
They also keep their mouths shut about it!
Yes, they help me- fix my house, let my haul junk -actually they haul junk for me in their trucks, lend a hand- and strenght-with gardening ideas and a host of other things.
My best friend and I share a love of scotch and cooking and spend most of our time talking about this- while he makes me dinner at his house- with his lovely 'wife' there!
I have another friend that has picked up the slack and saved my sorry ass and fixed up my house after I got royally screwed by a contractor that I thought was my friend. He also takes me out to the most glorious places-- spoils me rotten and understands that I am not available for a relationship of anything greater than friends.
Yes, I am lucky- and I adore all of them- and they do help me out-- like taking care of a poor little sister that needs help- but is too damn stubborn to admit it.
To you guys thanks- and you think I didn't know!

"Kidult"

this wonderful phrase was invented by Kidada Jones, Quincy Jones' daughter, to describe herself.... an kid... adult.....
while she is in training to be over 40 her insight and wisdom gave her entrance to this blog-- Kidada-- recently a member of Disney consumer production team explores the fun, creativity and excitement with being a child while balancing that with the responsibilities of being an adult (a balancing act many us have not yet managed).
"Kidada manages to make the need to keep your childhood imagination alive cool" states her sister----
so if it is playing with or collecting Disney characters, writing songs, painting, wearing Mickey Mouse t-shirts, designing clothes --- anything remember to keep a muscle working you need to exercise it- so exercise your imagination-- stay away from dull and boring--- be a kid- have some fun for darns sake!

hmmmmm middle aged women!

What is it with women- that many seem to stay stuck in the middle grades- 7-9?
I read recently that in seniors' homes the women still gossip about what other women wear, who they see and what they do! What is with this?
Gosh darn and more words- I could care less what another woman wears, even the young ones with the nice bods- shoot ladies wear what you can while you can- Enjoy life- enjoy your body, enjoy your youth!
Recently I had the experience of a lady about my own age- unleash on me about some issues-- I think she thought I had wanted to upset her- and that was the furthest from my intentions. I did not have time to explain as I could not get a word in--then I thought- let's practice manners and being polite- and taking a cue from Eckhart Tolle- I decided to breathe.
Perhaps she needed to vent and I was there- the insults were way out of line, and the sound of two slamming doors as I left beyond belief--why?
I did not share insults with this lady- thinking she must be having a bad day- and I went about mine- but the thought lingers- why all this anger?

Neverbloomers

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sMO61bK18BU

aha! Okay did you bloom? Did you wither? Are you a grown-up?Do you want to be a grown-up?

Me, I have been a grown-up and actually it kinda sucks-- time to grow-down and bloom!

Fun- this getting older is very freeing in many ways- another chance to grow- down and bloom!