A man's viewpoint---'The Scribbler- writes!

For a long, long time after my divorce, I promised myself that never again would I allow myself to be suckered into a relationship that I know in my heart of hearts would be no good for me.
Alas, that meant turning down a lot of good possibilities.
Oh, sure, I went out with a lot of women and had a lot of fun. There's something to be said for "sowing one's wild oats" in their 40s when one actually knows what one is doing (especially sexually). But most of those relationships were very short-term (because that's the way I wanted it) and were devoid of any deep, meaningful connection.
But with the experience of years and the fact that I've lived alone for nearly a decade, I'm starting to finally realize that I was looking for a made-to-measure fit in an off-the-rack world.
There was, and is, one particular woman that I'd be very interested in getting to know romantically, but she's simply not interested in me. We've already had the discussion, and she says that I'm "nice" (is there any bigger insult?) but she just doesn't feel "chemistry."
That frustrates me tremendously because she won't even give it a chance. But, of course, no one person can make another person do or feel anything. "Baring my soul" to her and telling her how I feel might look good in a Hollywood movie context, but the reality was far different.
So I'm back in the dating world, trying to weed out the gold-diggers (gawd, they're EVERYWHERE!!) and drama queens and those laden with tons and tons of baggage.
Now, I don't believe for a moment that "you'll know it when you feel it" and "let the universe unfold as it should" and "good things come to those who wait." If you want something to happen, you have to make it happen.So I'm trying to make it happen.