hmmmmm middle aged women!

What is it with women- that many seem to stay stuck in the middle grades- 7-9?
I read recently that in seniors' homes the women still gossip about what other women wear, who they see and what they do! What is with this?
Gosh darn and more words- I could care less what another woman wears, even the young ones with the nice bods- shoot ladies wear what you can while you can- Enjoy life- enjoy your body, enjoy your youth!
Recently I had the experience of a lady about my own age- unleash on me about some issues-- I think she thought I had wanted to upset her- and that was the furthest from my intentions. I did not have time to explain as I could not get a word in--then I thought- let's practice manners and being polite- and taking a cue from Eckhart Tolle- I decided to breathe.
Perhaps she needed to vent and I was there- the insults were way out of line, and the sound of two slamming doors as I left beyond belief--why?
I did not share insults with this lady- thinking she must be having a bad day- and I went about mine- but the thought lingers- why all this anger?

Interesting conundrum

Okay- I have had this conversation way too many times in the last few weeks.
Women over 40 not wanting a realtionship- men over 40 wanting one!
Why?
Is it because women having raised husbands and children- caring for everyone but themselves- including a career, finally just want to take care of themselves?
Then men get upset and say we are too selfish.
Men, spend their youth having fun and taking care of themselves (and pay for the family) then want some sex, companionship - and us old birds- having been the caregiver- want someone to take care of us.
The men used to being taken care of by ex-wives- now realize they want more of that but do not realize- or now maybe do- the first wife- or wives- left because they (the wife) was not being romanced, respected and loved.....
Hmmm. women want respect, romance, flowers, dinners out---- then that makes us gold-diggers! Or if not interested in a relationship makes us miserable old women.....
any ideas?

Late Night desserts

Now that we are all on the other side of 40-- why is that we do not enjoy the indulgences that our age allow?
Late night deserts at a fancy restuarant- late afternoon slices of pie and champagne?
I personally am killing myself just trying not to gain anymore weight- and man--- sometimes would it not just be nice to enjoy?
Maybe when I am 70---darn chocolate, strawberries and champagne in bed- with the tummy covered-- opps that is getting into the other blog again......
Guess perhaps lux and romance is the question--

Men blooming?

Interesting comment- why can men not bloom?
It seems funny to me that in 'person' men do not discuss the emotional part of their lives- but in anonymity of the Internet they seem to need and want to...... (maybe one of the reasons men and women are having such a hard time with each other)
However, many men I know do harbour secret fantasies- ( not that kind- that is another blog) rock-star, moviestar fantasies..... why not live them out now?
Why not go back to what your dreams where when you were young and try to revamp them?
Was the goal of your life really to be a mechanic, corporate exec-- do you feel still left out?
Yes, I think men can bloom- even though the word itself may have feminine connotations.

Neverbloomers

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sMO61bK18BU

aha! Okay did you bloom? Did you wither? Are you a grown-up?Do you want to be a grown-up?

Me, I have been a grown-up and actually it kinda sucks-- time to grow-down and bloom!

Fun- this getting older is very freeing in many ways- another chance to grow- down and bloom!

Never Bloomers!

http://www.sharonfilms.com/quiz.html
This quiz is way too fun=- even for us old and jaded folks--- try it--- and maybe you too will find some way to rebloom!

What women really want

Million dollar saphire and diamond shoes- yuhoo!

Browsing through this months Oprah magazine- I came upon an interesting article
Men and women and how to tell them apart'
basically the article was what women want and what men want--
"'Women want men to know what women want. And men want women not to want anything.'
That is the premise-- women want things that are hard to get- to prove the men love them, respect them and will go to great lenghts for them.
Men, if they give something that is easy to give- women do not feel treasured, and hence then the man will have to hunt and forage for something truly rare to make up for the slight of giving something rather mundane.... causing the woman to feel mundane!
The article goes on the say- if you want to impress your woman you need to find a rare lily that has not been seen on the earth since the time of Cleopatra!
Voila- simple !
Men, on the other hand want women that will think everything they do, like eating left over Indian food from the container, with the fridge door open- using their fingers to pick the bits out of the take out container, in the worn underwear--- and to hear their woman - sigh. She thinking he is the most impressive man on the planet!
There- simple- we will never come to terms on this----however I suppose if you clone the rare lily just for her- she may allow you some middle of the night finger eating out of the containers- just make sure the lights are highlighting the rare lily you created only for her amusement!

Interesting situation

Why is it women continue to be so- well 'bitchy' to one another?
It seems like the ugliness of 8th grade will never go away for some women- they seem so upset with women that are better looking- more talented, stay home, work- are richer - or poorer then they are-!
Why and what is the competition about- we understand it is for men when women are young- they want to pro-create with the best mate and want no competition-- but why is it that after the time of pro-creating women are still so god damn nasty?
any ideas?

Why am I single

www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/story/RTGAM.20080620.leah21/BNStory/lifeStyle/home
Great on-line debate about single- and why- and men and women- and well= It seems we really do not like each other any more- once/twice burned- three times shy.... no-one wants to share, time, resources, work load- and what all the goodies just for themselves-- Guess that is why we are all single--

ah the mid-life crisis!

You give up your career dreams to stay home and raise husbands and kids and end up mid 40's with no husband ( not always that bad) kids grown up and now you feel as lost as you where when you where in your early 20's -trying to figure what to do with your life.
Most of us- even at 20 'sold out' our fantasy lives for well paying careers, law- medicine =whatever, and never perused the real dream- actor, fashion designer, interior designer-- now here we are again!
Except now we are older, still wanting the dream, perhaps saddled with debt, mortgages, the fear of being old with no money- poverty was part of the 'fun' when we were young and starting out! Poverty does not seem so romantic at mid 40 - or the thought of poverty when we are 70!
Jumping off the boat- selling and moving to a hut in Mexico seems romantic now- running away like we would of done when we were 20- hitchhiking around the globe. But, back then we knew we would have to 'join society' at some point, come back and make our fortunes!
Now, some of us have our fortunes, are still 'empty', some of us middle class suffering the money woes after raising kids, and husbands, singles and struggling----
any ideas anyone out there?