ah and on dates

Please can someone explain to me why when a guy takes a girl out for a cup of coffee- at this middle age time- it suddenly seems the guy thinks they have a relationship???
It was a cup of coffee, a glass or two of wine- maybe a dinner- but that makes it dating- not having a serious committed relationship!
Come on guys- you have 'dated' before- that is what it is simply dating.... you and her can see other people, have dinner and drinks with other folks.
You are not having a committed relationship just because you have hung out together or are hanging out together.
This may be news to some of you guys- when you were younger maybe women went out for a drink and then thought you were their boyfriend- not so anymore- now you simply are a guy they went for a drink with.
Also, do not assume you are now their boyfriend- cause you bought them a coffee- do not call at all hours, drop by their house un-announced- expect them to want to meet your friends, actually this behaviour is creepy-------. The lady went for a drink with you--- nothing more!
If you are hanging out- maybe that is all she wants is to 'hang out'- maybe you really did not interest her in the way you wanted--relax- chill and please do not be so needy, clingy, overly-sensitive, possesive, and desperate- You are behaving in the same manner you used to refer to women--- Yuk--- not attractive!